Food for thought…Have you prayed about it as much as you’ve talked about it?


have you prayed about it FIRST

The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.  James 5:16

Being Italian, I have a hard time keeping my mouth shut.  When I see something that is wrong or that is bothering me, I usually don’t hesitate to discuss it with the person involved.   A few weeks ago, I noticed something that a friend was doing that was bothering other people as well as bothering me.  My first reaction was that I NEEDED to talk to her! Most of the time, I consult my husband on situations as well to make sure that I am not over reacting, or hormonally acting 🙂 So I told my husband about this situation, and he said well just pray about it.  (that is usually his way of nicely telling me that I am over reacting) That was not the answer that I wanted to hear!

So a few days went by and I kept pondering it, and to be honest, it really started bothering me.  So I again talked to my husband about it, and this time I wasn’t being as calm.  I had more of a “how dare she” attitude.  He again said, just pray about it.  I didn’t want to pray about it, I wanted to DEAL WITH IT…NOW!! So of course I just kept thinking about it more.  Let me tell you, this really ate at me for weeks and I couldn’t figure out why it was vexing me so much.

I usually have a rule of thumb that if something is bothering me, or I have been hurt by someone, I usually wait a couple days and pray about it. Then if it’s still bothering me I go to the person, if it’s not bothering me then I forgive and forget.  If I deal with it the second it occurs, a lot of times I react out of anger, or frustration, or some other type of emotion that doesn’t portray how I really feel.  Seeing as this was STILL bothering me, I needed to deal with it.

I was sitting the other night and just talking to the Lord, and finally I said “Lord, why is this bothering me so much? Am I wrong? Am I bitter? If I am wrong then change me please because I am sick of thinking about this”  I felt the Lord remind me of something I read once that said “Have you prayed about it as much as you’ve talked about it or as much as you’ve thought about it?” My answer to that was no. A big, fat, rotten, no. I had talked to my husband so much about it and tried to find reason in it, that I think I drove him nuts.  I definitely thought about it way more than I ever prayed about it, and when I did pray about it I’m pretty sure my prayers went something like this “Lord, give me the chance to talk to this woman so I can tell her how wrong she is”

Looking back on this, I am thankful for my husband’s faithfulness to encourage me to just wait and keep praying.  I have prayed my heart out for this woman, and I realized my own faults and sins are no different than hers.  God has challenged me to keep my mouth closed and get on my knees in prayer.  I have already seen God’s faithfulness, and His Spirit mending things in this woman’s life as well as mine.

Do you have a situation that you cant fix, or that has caused your heart to become bitter? Have you been hurt by someone and it has agitated you? Then ask yourself this same question “Have your prayed about it as much as you’ve talked about it or as much as you’ve thought about it?” If your answer is no, then get on your knees and watch our Lord work in your life as well as those you are praying for.  He is faithful.

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  1. yes……..wonderful

  2. TRUE that!