Food for Thought….Love is a Choice


This is a guest post by Tasia from Batavia’s Best Bargains!  


Love is a choice. Think about that for a minute.  A choice.  Each and every day we choose to love or we choose to not love. My husband and I have been together for eleven years, married for six.

In the first two years of our relationship we fought A LOT. Our on going argument seemed to be Eric telling me I was so unhappy because I wasn’t accepting him for who he was.

My walk with God was all over the place. I walked on the path he paved for me when I felt like it at that stage of life. And so did my husband. I wanted my husband to cater to my needs, which I wasn’t even sure of those needs myself. Eric was the first person to put me in my place that I actually heard.

Many people get married and experience a HUGE disappointment with their spouse because the truth is you realize you married an imperfect person. Once you realize that we are all flawed your vision becomes more beautiful.

Pride was and still knocks us over once in awhile in our marriage. I didn’t realize it years ago that I was prideful. I thought I was somehow better, more capable than my husband.

If you are having an argument with your spouse today stop those thoughts immediately. Pride will run wild in your mind and turn into anger, which will harden your heart.

Proverbs 11:2

“When pride comes, then comes shame;

But with the humble is wisdom.”

I need to make the choice to love my husband. Each day. Every day. Intentionally. I needed to be reminded that he was created in the image of God. It’s not just marriages that are constantly a tug at our heartstrings, it’s all our relationships.

Each day we have a choice to hold onto our pride, our resentment our anger, or we can choose to love. And when we choose love, we learn to let go.

Marriage is intended to help us mature. We take turns with our spouse as pilot and co-pilot of a jet plane. When our spouse exposes a flaw or weakness in our character, we need to react to listen and learn. We are navigating this plane together.

We are all rough around the edges. It is our spouse’s job to sand us as smooth as God created us to be. Today I love the person my husband is. I love that the way to grow closer is to grow closer to God. We aren’t completely smooth yet, but our edges are rounder now.

Today I encourage you to choose to love. Love the way Christ loves us. So that not only your marriage will flourish all your relationships will blossom.


Tasia is a blogger over at She is a stay at home mom to two beautiful daughters. She went back to work after her first daughter was born to pay off their debt . One year later all her debt (except for mortgage) was paid off. On her blog she shares in-store deals, exclusive small business coupons for Batavia area, her faith journey, and how they are living a frugal lifestyle and loving it.

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