“Faithful are the wounds of a friend” Proverbs 27:6
I cannot tell you how many times I have seen situations when one person talks about the situation of another instead of going to that person. Not only that, they justify their actions by saying ” I love her, but…..” the person then goes on to say some type of exposition to unveil the problems in someone else’s life.
So why dont people directly go to their friends to discuss these things? Because they are worried of offending. What is the typical first response when someone is corrected or reprimanded? Anger and defense. I have seen someone’s entire mood change in an instant when they are told that they are doing something wrong. In order to avoid that, we choose not to correct one another. I am guilty of this too.
Ladies, the Bible calls us to sharpen one another, sometimes it makes us uncomfortable or upset but out of love for one another we need to be honest with each other. “Who the Lord loves, He chastens” Hebrews 12:6. Our correction should stem from a heart of love. If you are not correcting someone in love, don’t correct them. There are times that some I have had to stop and pray, asking God to soften my heart in order to go to another in love instead of anger.
David spoke of correction, and he appreciated the correction of the righteous “Let the righteous strike me; it shall be a kindness. Let him rebuke me, it shall be as excellent oil, let my head not refuse it” Psalm 141:5 We are stubborn, we resent when others interfere with our lives, and it causes us to be hardened when others try to correct us. Ladies, humility needs to reside in our hearts because it is pride that causes us to hate correction.
Once I watched a woman correct another sister in the Lord, and her response was admirable. She said “Thank you for being faithful enough to tell me that, and I will pray about it because I want my life to represent Jesus and I would never want to do anything that isnt a representation of who He is.” Wow, that takes humility. I pray that we would all have enough humility to respond as she did.
Ladies, I pray that we would be faithful to the Lord and faithful to one another. Acting in love toward one another, and honest enough to correct one another. Never correct in anger. Pray for God to give you a soft heart in order to correct and be corrected. It is what makes us stronger.
“As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend” Prov 27:17