Food for thought….cherishing your husband


I remember one night, it was pouring rain, and it was 2 a.m. and I wanted my husband to know how much work I was doing around the house and the endeavor it was to take care of everything with my kids.  Quite frankly, I was annoyed that he hadn’t noticed my efforts! So I let him know that.  After an hour of talking back and forth and him assuring me that he does notice my efforts, I still hadn’t receive the praise that I thought I deserved, next thing I know, I heard a sound that annoyed me even more.  Could he be snoring right now? As I am pouring out my heart about my frustrations, he better not be snoring.  Yes, he surely is SNORING!  I was outraged.  Looking back, I am pretty sure this was all just a hormonal moment, but I was really mad and it seemed very real at the time!  So I gracefully pinched him in the arm to tell him I needed to go for a drive.  After I walked outside in the rain, I realized that my car was in the shop for repair.  Aghhh, that just added to my infuriation.

So I decided to hop into my husband’s truck.  Let me remind you how much I HATE driving his truck…its like 30 feet long, it takes effort just to climb into it, and its nearly impossible to turn or park.  So I got in anyway.  I drove around town replaying in my mind all of the good deeds that I do as a mom and wife, and thinking about the commending that I thought I deserved.  Then I looked in my mirror and thought… why cant I see out the back window? There is something blocking my view.  I pulled over (in the rain) jumped out to see that the truck was completely loaded to the top with wood, so much that the back window was covered. Let me tell you, that really topped off my night.

So here I am, at 2 in the morning, driving a gargantuan size truck, loaded to the top with wood, in the pouring rain, oh and did I mention that his truck gets like 5 miles per gallon of gas! Being the money saver that I am, that was another reason to be mad.   So I drove back home in complete anger, when I pulled in, I went upstairs , as I layed in the bed, I huffed and puffed and tossed around in my frustration and hoped that if I was loud enough, he would wake up.

So I went downstairs to read my Bible.  Here is what I read…. James 3:2– We all stumble in many ways.  I specifically remember reading this because it was such a monumental moment in my life and in my marriage.  I was broken.  I am a sinner who stumbles and has faults, yet I wanted to only point out his faults.  I was reminded of all the things that I do that I KNOW drive my husband nuts, yet he is sweet and loving enough to NEVER mention them.

You see, you may think that your husband stumbles in many ways, but YOU stumble in many ways also.   I struggle in ways that are different that you, and different than other women, and your husband struggles in ways that are different from other men, but I assure you that every husband stumbles and every wife stumbles.  We all have our faults. Looking back, he really didn’t even do anything wrong, I was so focused on myself that I was not seeing clearly.   When I recognized that he is eager to overlook my flaws and weaknesses, God challenged me as to why am I not willing and eager to overlook his (even though he wasn’t really doing anything wrong) and love him, submit to him, and cherish him.  That is your calling ladies, as a wife you are called to love beyond imperfections, joyfully submit, and cherish your husband with all your heart.  I have one chance here to be a wife, and I will answer to God as to the kind of wife I am, how I love my husband, and I want to err on the side of grace!

Do something special for your spouse today.  Are you annoyed with him? Give it to God and love on your spouse today, forgive him, forget his shortcomings, and press on to be a godly wife who treasures, encourages, admires, and honors her husband.  In that is where you will find the reward of a sweet and thriving marriage.

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  1. Thank you for this much needed and timely post. It spoke to my heart.

    • Marissa says:

      I’m glad it did Shirley! I always need to remind myself that I stumble in many ways. I’m thankful to have a godly husband that overlooks my faults 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!! Have a great weekend!

  2. As I started reading this, my husband was headed out the door to buy me coffee. Will be watching for things that I can do for him today. Great post!

    • Thanks Heather, this post reminded me of the gift that I have been given by God (my husband). Sometimes we lose sight of the blessing that marriage is. Thanks for stopping by. Have a fabulous weekend! And you have a good husband who is willing to go out and buy you coffee 🙂

  3. I’ve told my sons they’ll know when they’ve might the God-designed woman for them – she’ll be pouring her heart out and then he’ll start snoring! LOL. I’m a world-love language and spiritual gift person. My husband is an administrator gift and server love language. After we’d been married about 15 years, I got read 2 books: The 5 Love Language book and Discovering your Gifts (there’s one for spouses too which is all about how they communicate to each other) – and my life changed. I understood how God designed me and my love-tank needs – so we talked about it – establishing each other’s needs for support. When I read your post, it made me smile – Is your husband a server love language? If so, you were driving around in a truck full of his saying, “I love you.” I so enjoyed coming by and meeting you!

    • Thanks for stopping by. I am not sure what kind of love language we have. But I adore him with all my heart! LOL. That’s all I know! I have read the 5 love languages of children, and loved it. We all refer to love in different ways. I was driving around in the truck and I couldn’t think about anything other than how mad I was. Haha. It was great hearing from you, stop by again!

  4. An excellent post! We all need regular reminders that we need to cherish our men. We must be their biggest fan. We have the power to bring them down or lift them up. And I think they notice more about our efforts and all we do more than we think they do and more than they are willing to say.

    • Marissa says:

      Aimee, I agree with you! We need to be our husband’s biggest fans and biggest supporters!! And you are right, I think they do notice all that we do. I sometimes just get focused on myself and I’m looking for praise! Thanks for stopping by, have a great holiday weekend!


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