Managing Your Emotions



“My kids are driving me insane!”    “My husband is driving me crazy!”     “That driver makes me want to scream!”


Those are all things that we’ve heard before, and I’ll be honest, things I’ve either thought or said myself!!  If only people were more responsible, more logical, better drivers….right??  Well, there are things you can control and things you can’t.  You can’t control what others do, think, or say, but you can control your thoughts and actions.


Solomon said in Proverbs 23:7a, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”  Ouch, was I really that negative about things sometimes?  Yes!!  This verse made me rethink how I handled situations.  There are things that can’t be controlled, and it doesn’t make sense to respond negatively to them.  How you respond is your choice, and it truly shows what’s in your (and my) heart.  I couldn’t blame others for how I was reacting or feeling.  That came from within my heart.   Was I being a good mom, friend, or spouse when I thought or said these things?  No, it was just my reaction to things I couldn’t control.


Managing your emotions is possible…it’s called self-control.  Not only is self-control a fruit of the Spirit, but 2 Peter 1:5-6 says, “But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, to knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance godliness…”   We are called to have self-control.


The Word of God also tells us in 2 Corinthians 10:5 to take our thoughts captive.  I started to look at the intentions of people.  My 3 year old doesn’t have a tantrum to bug me, it’s because she’s tired.  That driver isn’t trying to make me late, I am just running late!  In many situations we just need to seek the truth.  I found in many of the circumstances there was an underlying reason I was upset.  I didn’t get something done, or my house was a mess, or I forgot something at the store.


Join me today, and stop blaming other people or things that you can’t control.  Bad things are going to happen in life.  That’s just the way it is.  But we can control how we handle things.


How can you grow in self-control?


1.  Take your thoughts captive.

2. Grow in the knowledge of God.  Read His Word everyday.  The more you get to know about God, the more you become like Him.  You will show others His love.

3. Practice patience.

4. Pray.

5. Have realistic expectations.  Your toddler may not be an angel in the restaurant if they haven’t had a nap that day.

6. Seek the truth.


2 Peter 1:8 says, “For if these things are yours and abound, you will be neither barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.”


If you seek the Word of God and grow in His knowledge and truth you will not be unfruitful.  What a great promise!








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